Patterns & Techniques Conflict Pattern

Changing the Standard

Changing the Standard turns completion into a moving target.

Changing the Standard is a pressure pattern: the bar keeps shifting so the task can never be finished. It sounds like: "That is a start, but it is not enough anymore." The counter is Broken Record, e.g. "The original agreement was a draft. A full deck needs a new timeline."

What to notice first

After you meet the stated standard, the standard changes.

See the pattern-to-technique matrix

Use the matrix when you need to compare pressure moves and choose a first response line quickly.

A scene you might recognize

You deliver the agreed draft. Your boss says, 'Good start. Now make it a full deck by tomorrow.'

Completion is being converted into a new test rather than recognized as the original agreement.

See this pattern in the wild

Read resources that use Changing the Standard

Practice recognizing this in drills

What the pressure is trying to do

Moving goalposts keep you chasing approval by changing the finish line.

The fix is to name the original standard and treat the new one as a new request.

How to recognize it

  • Watch for 'yes, but now...' after you complete the original request.

Common lines

That is a start, but it is not enough anymore.

I know I said one section, but the expectation changed.

Good, now prove you can handle the harder version.

How to answer without chasing the bait

  • Name the original agreement.
  • Treat the new standard as a new request.

Traps to avoid

  • Do not keep sprinting after a standard nobody will define.
  • Do not accept vague expectations as a contract.

Response scripts

The original agreement was a draft. A full deck needs a new timeline.

I can discuss the new standard, but it is separate from what we agreed.

Before I continue, I need the acceptance criteria defined.

You spot it too late in real life

Use the simulator when praise quickly turns into more unpaid labor. Practice naming the old bar before negotiating the new one.

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